Yeah you defo missed a couple important details there, i do appreciate the fact that you're chiming in trying to offer help though… However i also know that most people can't really wrap their heads around narcicisstic parental abuse (or munchhausen by proxy/abusive codependency-type situations in general).
Normal parents (deserving of the title) love their children unconditionally and do everything they can to support them and give them a jumpstart in life. Abusive/narcicisstic parents don't though. There is a certain cultural bias which tends to shift the blame away from parents when something goes awry.
I'm turning 27 in a couple days, the last 4 years or so i've been working my way out of the narc FOG and reflecting on a whole lot of things. Of course not everything was always 100% bad and terrible in the past, especially during my childhood and early youth (though even that had regular narc-type episodes and abusive patterns, like with many other narc-raised children my memory is a bit spotty in that regard), but the fact that not everything was always terrible 100% of the time does not excuse in any way shape or form the behaviour that followed. I started getting beaten irregularly by my sperm donor when i was about 11-12yo.
Not a peep about this ever got to the outside of the house because, like many narcs, my egg donor loved to play the martyr role and do the whole munchhausen by proxy shtick and was very good at it too (she learned a profession that necessiated putting on a friendly presentable face at all times).
I shit you not i was dragged to a child psychologist starting from 6yo and given ADHD "medication" only to be later told that i "never had ADHD in the first place" - I live in a pretty boomerfied region with a particular mentality and culture and the fact that something might be wrong with the domestic environment itself and not actually myself never seemed to occur to any of the actors within the system (psychologists, youth welfare office and what have you et cetera). This is also why she had a huge fucking meltdown when i told her (pre-NC) about how my other "diagnosis" was fully revised. She always had this pre-conceived notion of me being the scapegoat everything bad gets projected and thrown onto, like as if my supposed dysfunction was somehow tied to her own sense of self-worth. This kind of bizarre interpersonal enmeshment is very common in abusive families too mind you.